Julius about to interrupt, he quickly said, «Okay, I`ll just say one thing and stop.

When you left, Pam, it was a downer to me. I felt we had failed you, that we were

not good enough or resourceful enough to help you with your crisis. I didn`t like

that you had to turn elsewhere—to India—for help. Next.»

Bonnie quickly said, «The giant issue here was Julius`s announcement

about his illness. You know all about this, Pam?»

«Yeah.» Pam nodded gravely. «Julius told me when I phoned last weekend

to tell him I was back.»

«Actually,” Gill said, «I want to amend that—no offense, Bonnie—but

Julius didn`t tell us. What happened was that we went out for coffee after Philip`s

first meeting, andhe told us since Julius had told him in an individual meeting.

Julius was pretty pissed at Philip`s preempting him. Next.»

«Philip`s been here about five sessions. He`s in training to be a therapist,”

said Rebecca, «and, as I understand it, Julius was his therapist many years ago.»

Tony said, «We`ve been talking about Julius`s...uh...condition and uh...”

«You meancancer . That`s a shocking word, I know,” said Julius, «but it`s

best to look it in the face and say it.»

«About Julius`scancer. You`re one tough old bird, Julius—I gotta hand it to

you.» Tony went on, «So we talked about Julius`s cancer and how hard it was to

talk about other things that were small in comparison.»

Everyone had spoken but Philip, who now said, «Julius, it would be okay if

you were to tell the group about why I first came to see you.»

«I`ll help, Philip, but it would be better, when you`re ready, to describe that

yourself.»

Philip nodded.

When it became clear that Philip was not going to continue, Stuart said,

«Okay, back to me—a second round?»

Looking around at nodding heads, Stuart continued, «In one meeting

Bonnie had some reactions to Rebecca`s coming on to Philip.» Stuart stopped,

looked at Rebecca, and inserted, «Rebecca`sallegedly coming on to him. Bonnie

did some work on her feelings about her self–image, her sense of being

unattractive.»

«And clumsiness and inability to compete with women like you, Pam, and

Rebecca,” said Bonnie.

Rebecca said, «While you were away Philip made a lot of constructive

comments.»

«But revealed nothing about himself,” said Tony.

«One last thing: Gill had a serious confrontation with his wife—even

considered walking out,” said Stuart.

«Don`t give me too much credit—I waffled. That resolve lasted about four

hours,” said Gill.

«A good review,” said Julius, looking at his watch. «Before we quit, let me

ask you, Pam, how are you handling this—you feel more on board?»

«Still unreal. I`m trying to hang in, but I`m glad to stop. This is all I can

deal with today,” said Pam, gathering up her things.

«I`ve got to say something,” said Bonnie. «I`m frightened. You all know I

love this group, and I feel it`s ready to detonate and blow apart. Will we all be

back? You, Pam? You, Philip? You guys coming back?»

«A straight question,” Philip quickly responded. «I`ll respond in kind.

Julius invited me come to the group for six months, and I agreed. I also have his

commitment for supervisory credit. I plan to pay my bill and honor my contract.

I`m not leaving.»

«And you, Pam?» said Bonnie.

Pam stood. «This is all I can deal with today.»

As the members left, Julius heard some comments about going out for

coffee. How would that work? he wondered. Would Philip be invited? He had

often told the members that extragroup meetings could be divisive unless

everyone was included. Then he noticed that Philip and Pam were heading toward

the door on a collision trajectory. This should be interesting, he thought. Philip

suddenly took note of it and, realizing that the doorway was too small for two,

stopped and softly muttered «please» and stepped back to allow Pam to go

through first. She strode out as if he were invisible.

Women,

Passion,

Sex

_________________________

Sexdoes not hesitate to

intrude with its trash,

and to interfere with the

negotiations of statesmen

and the investigations of

the learned. Every day it

destroys the most

valuable relationships.

Indeed it robs of all

conscience those who were

previously honorable and

upright.

_________________________

After his mother, the next most pervasive female presence in Arthur`s life was a

querulous seamstress named Caroline Marquet. Few biographical accounts of

Schopenhauer fail to spotlight their 1823 midday encounter, which took place on

a dimly lit Berlin stairway outside Arthur`s flat when he was thirty–five and

Caroline forty–five.

On that day Caroline Marquet, living in the adjoining flat, entertained three

friends. Irritated by the noisy chattering, Arthur flung open his door, accused the

four women of violating his privacy since the anteroom where they stood talking

was technically a part of his flat, and sternly ordered them to leave. When

Caroline refused, Arthur physically forced her, kicking and screaming, from the

anteroom and down the stairs. When she impertinently climbed back up the stairs

in defiance, he again removed her, this time more forcefully.

Caroline sued him, claiming that she was pushed down the stairs and

suffered grievous injury resulting in trembling and partial paralysis. Arthur was

highly threatened by the lawsuit: he knew that he was unlikely ever to earn money

from his scholarly pursuits and had always fiercely guarded the capital inherited

from his father. When his money was imperiled he became, in the words of his

publisher, «a chained dog.»

Certain that Caroline Marquet was an opportunistic malingerer, he fought

her lawsuit with all his might, employing every possible legal appeal. The bitter

court proceedings continued for the next six years before the court ruled against

him and ordered him to pay Caroline Marquet sixty talers a year for as long as her

injury persisted. (In that era a house servant or cook would have been paid twenty

talers annually plus food and board.) Arthur`s prediction that she was shrewd

enough to tremble as long as the money rolled in proved accurate; he continued to

pay for her support until she died twenty–six years later. When he was sent a copy

of her death certificate he scrawled across it: «Obit anus, abit onus» (the old

woman dies, the burden is lifted).

And other women in Arthur`s life? Arthur never married but was far from

chaste: for the first half of his life he was highly sexually active, perhaps even

sexually driven. When Anthime, his childhood friend from Le Havre, visited

Hamburg during Arthur`s apprenticeship, the two young men spent their evenings

searching for amorous adventures, always with women from lower social strata—

maids, actresses, chorus girls. If they were unsuccessful in their search, they

ended their evening by consoling themselves in the arms of an «industrious

whore.»

Arthur, lacking in tact, charm, and joie de vivre, was an inept seducer and

needed much advice from Anthime. His many rejections ultimately caused him to

link sexual desire with humiliation. He hated being dominated by the sexual drive

and in subsequent years had much to say about the degradation of sinking to

animalistic life. It was not that Arthur didn`t want women; he was clear about

that: «I was very fond of them—if only they would have had me.»