Divorced Dads can be Mum and Dad if they have to. And even if they don't want to go that far, many of them want to be the best Dads, despite being separated from their kids. The difficulty for Dads is that there's little understanding of fatherhood until after it happens. To men, it seems that women are pre-programmed to deal with children. Then when they are separated from a child after divorce, the trauma can be beyond expression and Dads need the serious assistance to help them conquer the difficulties