True love doesnt just happen, notes professional matchmaker Patti Novak. You have to work for itand want it. Forget eight-minute speed dates or online dating sites with twenty-page questionnaires that promise a scientifically calculated perfect match. The fact that you both like golf, stamp collecting, and pizza with anchovies is great, but it wont mean a thing if you dont feel that zing. But before there can be sparks, there have to be dates. And before the first date, you need to get over yourself! Taking a tough-love approach, and in her signature straight-shooting style, Patti will show you how to fix what needs to be fixed, reach your core, and identify who you are and what you want in a partner. She uses a three-part common-sense formula: Getting Over What? Assess your dating weaknesses, recognize whats not working, and adjust your expectations. Delve into your personal history and past relationships, and pinpoint the issues that have been holding you back. Almost Over It Fine-tune your attitude, your look, and your behavior to maximize your dating chances. Novak lays out strategies to help you deal with the brutal dating monsters you find along the way. Over It Learn the dos and donts of the first date, the second date, and beyond. Remember, its not a job interview or therapy session. Pretend youre meeting a new friend, not a prospective husband or wife.Finding your one and only isnt about having the right shoes or a flat stomach. Its about being true to yourself, being vulnerable, and being ready for love. Whether youre new to the dating scene, divorced and looking, or just trying to reach that second date, Get Over Yourself! will help you get the love youve always wanted and deserve.From the Hardcover edition.